Myths: Tops are masculine and bottoms are feminine In some relationships, both partners may do both roles at different times, and in some relationships, anal won’t even take place at all. There are some guys that will identify exclusively as a bottom (the receiving partner in anal sex) or as a top (the giving partner in anal sex), but there are plenty of guys that won’t. Myth: All MSM have to be either a bottom or a top If no matter what you do it’s still sore, then don’t worry about it – there are plenty of other ways to have sex. If you use plenty of lube, and don’t do anything you are not ready for, you might really enjoy it. Anal sex can hurt, but it doesn’t have to.
For example, lots of MSM will prefer mutual masturbation or oral sex. There are tonnes of ways for two men to have sex apart from anal sex. Some MSM may have anal sex every time they have sex, but many won’t. Plenty of MSM aren’t into anal sex at all, and choose not to do it. Myth: Men who have sex with men (MSM) only have anal sex
